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Oftentimes, I see brothers running helter-skelter to the gyms to exercise and get six (6) packs. They want to stay fit and attractive. They want to stay healthy and strong. I see your struggles and the work you all put into this. I applaud you.
As you are busy expending energy and resources on your physique, other aspects of your life should not be left to suffer. You should learn how to balance things and live a balanced life. Letβs delve into the six packs you actually need to make your marriage a blissful one.
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I know you go to church, in fact, you were born in the church. Itβs so good to see you in church every time bro, but itβs better for you to know the LORD of the church and for us to see the church in you.
At the point of salvation, everyone begins a Walk With God. However, not many people continue in that walk. Itβs unfortunate!
If you want to enjoy a blissful and beautiful marriage, you canβt do without God! You need Him every step of the way. Right from the point of making a decision on who to marry to the point you say farewell to this world. Even while planning for the wedding ceremony, you need Him. You need Him at the wedding ceremony so that when the wine gets exhausted, He can turn water into wine!
You need Him in the marriage. βA three-fold cord is not easily broken.β β Ecclesiastes 4:12. God is the third cord. He should be the Head of your home, the unseen Guest at every meal, and the silent Listener to every conversation. He should be present with you at all times.
You need Him to hold you by the hands and teach you how to love His daughter, whom He gave to you as a wife. You need Him to teach you how to handle a lot of situations that will threaten to break your home!
Trust me, you canβt do without God in your home!
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Adam had a job first before God gave him Eve as his wife. You, my brother, should ensure that you are financially buoyant enough to feed two mouths conveniently before taking another manβs daughter to the altar.
Love is good, but it wonβt put food on your table. Neither will it pay your bills.
Donβt wait for the government to give you a job, employ yourself. Thereβs no one God created empty! We all have treasures deposited in us! Discovery yours and put them to you. Learn and acquire skills that can fetch you good money.
I strongly advise having multiple streams of income.
Love is sweet, but when money enters, it becomes SWEETER!
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You are marrying a wife, not a slave sir! Have you ever paused to wonder why some women look old even when they are not yet 40 years old?
The answer is not far-fetched. Their husbands used them roughly. The poor woman will cook, sweep, wash clothes, wash the dishes, mop the entire house, carry pregnancies, bathe the babies, back the babies, change the diapers, and everything. All the work in the house is left for just one person. And in the night, oga will still come and she must βdo the do.β
Bros, donβt commit murder o. Learn simple homemaking skills.
βLearn how to cook good food. Some men cannot even boil water. Eeeeeeeeiii God! And if you ask them to cook, itβs going to be either a burnt offering or a dead sacrifice!
βFlush the toilet after use. Or are you afraid to discard what your body discarded? You dey fear your own sh.t?
βLearn how to do the dishes. You pile plates up in the sink and wonder why cockroaches and rats have made your house their headquarters? Stopeeet!
βLearn how to wash clothes. There will be times when you need to wash clothes, you wouldnβt want to mess everything up.
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You acquire knowledge by reading, observation, and practicals. Listen, I mentioned reading first. Thatβs the first step to knowledge acquisition. For the practical aspect, wait till your wedding night.
Learn about the anatomy of the manβs body in general and the pe.nis in particular. Read about what to eat to give you good erec.tion and to help boost your spe.rm count.
Read about how to treat your wife in bed. Some men su.ck in terms of s.e.x. They are very selfish and all they want is to enjoy s.e.x, without minding if their wives enjoy it too. Whereas, the enjoyment is meant to be mutual.
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Marriage is not for babies. Itβs for mature minds. You need to deliberately work on yourself before saying βI DO!β
You need to know what you want and what you donβt want. You need to have a mindset revamp about many issues that usually cause conflicts in marriages.
Take good care of yourself. Women love men who:
β know how to take good care of themselves,
β know what clothes and shoes fit them
β know what hairstyles fit them
β know what body sprays smell nice on them
β have a great fashion sense
β have good taste
β take good care of their teeth, armpits, etc
β are neat in general!
Read godly books on courtship, relationships, and marriages. Have you heard that my book, titled: Building Emotional Intimacy: The Importance of Discussing Sex During Courtship is out? Itβs available for purchase on Selar. Grab a copy and read!
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Women are special creatures. Sometimes, they say βnoβ when they actually mean βyes.β At other times, they say βyesβ while in actual fact, they mean βno.β
Also, there are times that their βyesβ will be yes and the βnoβ will be no. Study how to handle her when sheβs having a mood swing.
You need to read books on how a woman reasons and behaves. Read books on the anatomy of the womanβs body too.
Women love it when you give them money. No matter how much she makes, whatever you give her is worth more!
They also love men who give them helping hands in the house. Donβt just be lazing around the house and expect her to slave off herself for you.
