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So, in this article I will be showing you some type of people you should not marry. It’s not everyone that’s ready for marriage is marriable.
1. Don’t marry anyone that is not a child of God
Adam had a relationship with God first before having a relationship with anyone. That’s how it’s supposed to be. The first relationship man was given was relationship with God before relationship with his wife(Gen. 3:8-9).
I have said this before, the best person to marry is a child of God, someone that fears and loves God and is being led by the Holy Spirit. Someone that fears God will shun evil and will never maltreat you. Anyone that doesn’t love or fear God can do anything without minding.
So, anyone that is not a child of God, born again and committed in the service of the kingdom, is not a prayer point. Don’t be unequally yoke with unbelievers. If you’re a child of God, marry a child of God, If you’re an unbeliever, please look for your kind. Let’s not be unfortunate. God and Satan cannot be in-laws.
2. Don’t marry anyone that doesn’t have direction in life.
Adam was busy with something before the issue of marriage came up. He was busy ruling, dominating, working and taking care of the earth. Therefore, before marriage you should know what you want to do with your life(Gen 2:15).
Don’t marry anyone that doesn’t know where he or she is going in life. Have something meaningful doing with your life before marriage. Don’t wait for marriage before you become useful. Be useful to yourself, family and society.
3. Don’t marry anyone that beats you
Many ladies are guilty of this. You’re in a relationship with a guy that hasn’t done anything on your head yet he beats and abuses but you keep believing he will change. Don’t worry, when you enter marriage, he’s likely to kill you if God doesn’t help you.
Don’t marry anyone that raises hand on you, inflicts injury on you both physically, psychologically and emotionally. That’s a big red flag. Run. A person that beats you before marriage, may kill you after marriage. And if he or she cannot change before marriage, change after marriage maybe difficult.
4. Don’t marry anyone that’s too proud.
Anyone that’s too proud will always think or feel he or she is doing you a favor by getting married to you. You’ll be taken for granted. You will not be appreciated and accepted. The person will find it hard to admit his or hand wrong. Nobody is doing anyone favour, even if na dangote son or daughter.
A proud person is an entitled person. They want to be served, worshipped, appreciated, wanted but can not do same for you.
5. Don’t marry anyone that manipulates or blackmails you.
Don’t marry anyone that always blame you when something goes wrong, even when they’re at fault, they will always turn the situation against you. They always make you feel as if you’re not enough or worthy to be loved and appreciated. They always talk you down. They will so erode your self esteem that you will begin to think that you deserve what you are getting. That’s a toxic person to marry.
6. Don’t marry anyone that threatens you
Most of the time, the thing many people are facing in marriage have always been there during their courtship or dating but were too blinded to see it. Don’t marry anyone that threatens you with breakup if you should deny him or her sex or if you refuse to get pregnant before marriage. Don’t marry anyone that always threatens to beat you.
7. Don’t marry anyone that doesn’t support you.
People in a relationship suppose to support each other but when you are in a relationship with anyone that doesn’t support your legit course, vision, goals, purpose, ministry, ambition etc., that’s a wrong person to marry. The person is only after his or her own course. Many woman have sacrificed their ambitions on the alter of marriage due to the kind of man they marry.
8. Don’t marry anyone that doesn’t have an authority he or she submits to
In the minitary, it’s only someone that’s under authority that can give command and it will be obeyed. Don’t marry a free-ranger, someone that doesn’t submit to any authority, listen to anyone, obey anyone, respect anyone. That’s a dangerous person to marry. He can do and undone with reckless abandone because nobody to restrict or constrain.
The family, church, a Mentor, a Counselor etc., are example of authorities one should have.
9. Don’t marry anyone that doesn’t respect you
Someone that doesn’t care about your feelings before he or she does something, talks to you the way he or she wants, treats you anyhow, is not the kind of person to marry. I mean someone that doesn’t care if what he or she is doing is hurting you, you shouldn’t marry that kind of a person.
10. Don’t marry anyone that doesn’t love you
Love is foundational to the survival of marriage, without love resentment, harshness, unkind words and actions, avoidance, irritation, boredom, etc will be a daily occurrence. Love is a lubricant and moisturiser. It makes things easy.
I often say that, marrying someone that doesn’t love or someone you don’t love is self imprisonment with hard labour. A lot of people have complained to me that they are facing hell in their marriages because of lack of love.
Author: Mujuni Henry
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