HOW TO CULTIVATE SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE

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“Help, how do I become sexually compatible with my spouse?”

Here are a few ways cultivate sexual compatibility in marriage if you have the above concern.

Don’t have an exit plan. Stop wondering if there is better sex out there as this will sow seeds of infidelity
Know that even though sex is a key component of marriage, there is more to marriage than sex. Look at your spouse holistically, what are you grateful for?
Know that each marriage has its own journey and seasons. For some, this includes a season when sex becomes scarce or boring
Look back and see if you two have been having difficulty connecting sexually from the very beginning. Most likely you two started off with a spark then the fire died down. What sequence of events led to the dip?
Beyond the sex, are there underlying issues in your marriage that are not being addressed? Issues such as communication, respect, finances, phone use, in laws and insecurities? Underlying issues going ignored will lead to you two having negative perception towards each other. Sex starts in the mind. Once you have a negative opinion of your spouse, sex will suffer
Know that there are libido killers in men and women. Men’s enthusiasm for sex can be work stress, financial constraints, self consciousness about the size of the penis and disrespect from the wife. For women, financial constraints, exhaustion, low self-esteem, self consciousness about her body and insensitivity from the husband. Address these by making your spouse feel understood. Cultivate emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy will follow
Know that sometimes libido is inhibited due to hormonal changes as a result of family planning. If this is an issue, consider as a couple to change the family planning method
Go through the SEX QUIZ FOR HUSBANDS and SEX QUIZ FOR WIVES. A series of tests designed by Akello and I to help know each other better sexually
Don’t flirt with other people on social media, on the phone or face to face. This will distract you and complicate the issue
Do not do things that make your spouse suspect your cheating. Entertaining other people in your marriage will make your spouse repel you
If you have cheated in the past, demonstrate that you have changed by being appreciative, honest, transparent, accountable and consistent
Do not mock the sexual performance of your spouse by criticing his penis, making fun of her body or comparing your spouse with others or porn stars
Don’t try to live up to what you see in porn. Porn videos are acted out as they push the limits
Don’t rush to porn and masturbation. This will make you lazy at working on your marriage as you are already getting pleasure making your spouse irrelevant
Praise your spouse’s body and skill. This will make him feel good good and want to please you more. Ego is crucial in love making for both man and woman
Don’t get carried away by the sex stories your friends give you. Sometimes they exaggerate because most people having sex want to brag they are having the best. Listening to this banter alot will make you think you are missing out and put pressure on your marriage
Have a Queen’s night once every week or two weeks. During this Queen’s night, it is all about the wife getting pleasure and for the husband to do to her as she likes it. If she wants to be kissed, licked, rubbed, made love to whatever style of her choice, his role is to satisfy. In those nights it is not about him but her. Also have a King’s night once a week or biweekly which is the reverse, a night where it is all about the wife giving the husband pleasure as he requests. This will teach you to custom make pleasure for each other
Learn to exclusively flirt. Stop being rigid. Send each other naughty messages, exchange naughty conversations and let loose. Play around with each other. This will make you comfortable
Remember that love is the greatest aphrodisiac. Don’t focus on orgasms, focus on loving each other in a way that both of you feel loved. This will lead to physical connection that will drive your body crazy
Change sex positions. Change settings, make over your bedroom or occasionally book a hotel room away from the kids and go make love there
Attend to each other’s fetish. We all have our sexual fantasies, make your spouse’s fantasies come true as long as it is just between you two. No threesomes or orgies. Do what enhances faithfulness
Invest in good lingerie or underwear, or if you are kinky, even buy edible underwear. Look visually appealing and have memorable fun