Sex for some virgins on the wedding night and beyond is a huge disaster. The man knows next to nothing about sex, went straight from prayer of thanks to intercourse and wonders why he didn’t enjoy it, nay, his wife hated both him and the sex together!
So many men simply don’t know how to have sex, they know how to have intercourse, yes, but sex? no, a big NO!
Friendship is a must before marriage. It helps you bond with your partner, enjoy courtship and gloriously look forward to a fabulous sex together, marry your best friend! If you marry a stranger, your sex is the first to suffer. Sex is most enjoyed when you have it with someone you have chemistry for. If it is just someone you picked because you are tired of singleness, you won’t enjoy sex with them!
I don’t know why some virgins are scared of sex on the wedding night. Why will you be scared of embracing and wrapping yourself around your lover? You should read Songs of Solomon before you get married!
Talk about your sex life few months or weeks before marriage. Share expectations. Some ignorant people believe if you are truly a virgin, you should have no libido, neither should you talk about your sexual expectations before marriage. That is absolute fallacy! How come virgins are masturbating if they have no desire for sex?
Her fiance always stayed physically aloof in courtship as if her body was a forbidden tree. He would look at her with admiration but would not touch. He told her she was the most beautiful woman in his universe, wrote her countless love letters yet would not even hug her. She was like a sacred goddess that must be reverenced but forbidden to touch. A time came and she got scared, is this guy impotent or what? Can’t we even hug? Just hugging, anything bad in hugging? He told her he didn’t want to smell what he would not eat. She asked him, “Are you sure our sex life won’t be cold in marriage?” Her kind of temperament couldn’t cope with cold sex for God’s sake!
She hated failure with a passion, and the bedroom is not a place she wanted to fail at all! She had read good books to that effect so she had to let him know her expectations. She let him know he was gonna do lots of hugging and cuddling in marriage. He simply smiled at her.
On the wedding night, the husband discovered she was naive and all her rantings came from the theories she read in books. She knew virtually next to nothing about sex but sharing expectations helped them a great deal. Hubby didn’t use his virginity and having no single experience with any woman to perform woefully. He read good books and both of them improved together.
The husband became a fabulous kisser! The hubby taught her how to kiss him, how to work on him and how to let him work on her. He practically made her enjoy sex and their private life rated an A. She gave her husband a double A in that regard!
Talk! I hate it when women don’t enjoy sex. It’s so easy for a man to get orgasm but it takes a lot of work for a woman to get there.
God wants you to enjoy sex in marriage. Do all in your power to give your spouse pleasure. Read good books, listen to godly tapes, go for counselling, attend seminars and read your Bible, you will not fail in Jesus name. God bless you.
Author: Mujuni Henry
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