REASONS WHY YOU ARE NOT HAPPY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

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YOU WANT PERFECTION
When you want everything to be perfect, you will miss out on the beauty of love. Love is seen in the flaws, storms and struggles. Love is an opportunity to grow. Growth means the two still have areas to improve. Love is not for the perfect but those willing to grow
YOU ARE LETTING THIRD PARTIES INTERFERE
If you allow third parties to run and direct your love life you will struggle in your relationship/marriage. Don’t let your parents, siblings and friends micro manage you and your partner/spouse
YOU WANT TO COPY OTHERS
As long as you want to be like other couples or compete against them your love life will be empty. No fulfilment comes out of being a copy cat
YOU KEEP SHIFTING GOAL POSTS
When you and your partner/spouse agree on something, don’t keep changing your mind lest you find yourselves going round and round without making progress. If you fail to give your relationship/marriage progress it will make you feel stuck and bored
YOU ARE A CONTROL FREAK
Wanting everything to go your way will make your partner/spouse tolerate you rather than celebrate you. It also will lead to frustration as life has ups and downs. Don’t develop high blood pressure and become angry when things don’t go your way. Ride the curves and turns life brings. You don’t know everything
YOU ARE “TOO GROWN”
Many think that growing up means you cannot laugh, joke, have fun, play games or do silly stuff. Don’t be uptight. Age in a marriage full of laughter. Tease your spouse. Tickle each other. Watch comedies. Don’t take life too seriously
YOU WERE BROUGHT TO THINK LOVE IS HARD WORK
Love is actually simple, we are the ones who complicate it. The wrong attitude towards relationships and marriages will make love feel like a burden. When you do love right, your partner becomes the best friend you spend the whole of your life with, not the person you committed to and struggle to be with. Best friends doesn’t mean it will always be easy or that you will never offend each other, but when tough times come, you cling tighter together because there’s no one else you’d rather be with
YOU ARE OVER SPIRITUALIZING MARRIAGE
God is not just interested in your spiritual life. God cares about your social life, your sexual life, your emotions, the food you eat. God wants you to be more than a vessel serving, God wants you to enjoy life. God wants you to enjoy the wife of your youth. Stop looking at marriage as an assignment but as a bond of love, a manifestation of God’s goodness
YOU ARE SELFISH
When you make the relationship/marriage to be just about you and your needs, it will become bitter. There is joy in giving. Give to your partner/spouse gives to you. Be mindful of each other
YOU ARE HARD TO PLEASE
Are you a difficult person? Do you make it difficult for your partner/spouse to please by being insensitive, condescending, judgemental, dismissive and constantly complaining? Even when good is done to you, you still complain? Learn to appreciate your partner/spouse or you will drive your love into a cliff
YOU STILL LOOK BACK
Are you in a relationship or married but you still look back at your ex or past life? You will confuse yourself and destroy the purity and intensity of your current relationship/marriage
YOU HAVE A DARK VIEW ABOUT SEX
Because sex has brought a lot of pain to many when abused or misused, many tend to have a negative view about sex, they see sex as evil, dirty, unGodly. These people in marriage are the ones who are rigid when making love. They have sex as an obligation, not for intimacy. They detest different sexual positions claiming sexual curiosity in marriage is wrong. They miss out on the beauty of intimacy
YOU ARE PRETENDING
There are many who hide secrets from their partner/spouse. They always want to show the good side. And so they are not vulnerable. They hide their tears, battles and fears from their partner/spouse thereby denying their partner/spouse an opportunity to be there for them. Stop acting yet deep down you are hurting, broken and lost. Open up to your partner/spouse so that you can be loved. Stop standing in the way of love by hiding your weaknesses. Relax. Be loved
YOU ARE INSECURE
Insecurity will make you dethrone yourself even when your position in your partner/spouse’s life is not under threat. It make you falsely accuse your partner/spouse for no reason, make you paranoid, make you jealous when you shouldn’t be any give you sleepless nights. Don’t push your partner/spouse away. Be secure in yourself. Have a healthy self-esteem
YOU OVERTHINK
Some people always have to worry. Even when in a romantic setting or when making love, they are anxiously worried. Learn to keep calm. Don’t spoil the moment by always trying to be intellectual
YOU ARE FULL OF PRIDE
Pride keeps you from admiring you need help or apologizing. Pride will keep you from learning. When you humble yourself, you will experience the beauty of love and life
YOU ARE IN A HURRY
Some want to hurry things up. They want things quickly and give up when it takes a while. Love is a gradual process. Sometimes it is not that your blessings have delayed, but that nurturing takes time
YOU DISOBEY GOD
The more you rebel against God, the more your love life will suffer. Don’t fight God, the one who came up with the idea of love and marriage
YOU ARE DISTRACTED
Paying romantic attention to someone else besides your partner/spouse, flirting, lusting after another will keep you from giving your best to your partner/spouse. Focus on the one you love and don’t be fooled by this statement from the pit of hell “don’t keep all your eggs in one basket”, this will make you chase someone who was meant for you away due to lack of total commitment and the goals of your relationship.