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📌Ladies, Take Note. Ensure You Read To The End!📌

During a Personalised Relationship Coaching Session with a single lady who is in her early thirties, she complained about a male friend of hers who has never really expressed love to her in any way, but was always showing her love.

They have been friends for a long time, and he cared so much about her like someone who was interested in her. He does “Everything” to fill up her emotional tank and she began to fall deeply in love with him.

The young man neither asked her out, nor professed love to her, but kept showing up strong. This beautiful lady was so confused about his actions, so she booked a paid session with me just to have clarity.

She was so bothered as to why he was acting the way he does, and wanted to know how to relate with him.

I went further to ask why she was bothered about his action, that was when she opened up to me about having a huge crush on him, and most likely thought he could be in love with her as much as she was also in love with him, but maybe he didn’t know how to relate the information to her.

After a thorough session of investigation, just to find out more about her confusion, I went into professional counseling.

There’s a wide misconception on the topic of love and how to discover when one is really in love with you.

It’s so sad that a lot of ladies cannot categorically tell when a man is in love with them.

📌Mistake No 1
DON’T ASSUME❌

Dear Lady, understand that you are naturally an overly emotional being who thinks in CAPITALS. You get to think about the end of a thing when it hasn’t even begun.

Learn to calm down, and take your time to get your facts right.

Assumption could lead to frustration when you don’t put it in check. A lot of ladies claim to have been heart broken when in the actual sense, no one broke their heart.

Why would you assume that a man who is showing up strong could be in love with you?

When a man is doing everything in his capacity to please you, it could be for any reason. It may not necessarily be for a romantic relationship/marriage with you. It’s wise to ask him why he’s showing care, so that he can further express himself in clearer terms, for you not to get confused.

His reply would help you to understand why he was acting the way he did.

After the session with me, she went ahead to have a deep conversation with the young man.

She discovered that he liked her simply because of her personality and the big stuff she does. He didn’t say anything beyond that. At that point, I encouraged her to take it as a friendly gesture.

Of course, if he wants anything further, his reaction and level of follow up will help her to know, or most likely he might even say what he wants eventually.

I understand that there are some men who don’t know how to verbally woo a lady.How to Propose And Win Your Dream Woman’s Heart,”’ will help you greatly to overcome that aspect of your life.

Never assume that a man wants to have a romantic relationship/marriage with you when he’s not saying anything.

The wise thing to do is to ask him, if you are confused.

At the end of the day, she gained clarity on how to handle such men and subsequent men in her life.

Also, she was able to move on with her life without falling into the trap of being guilt tripped, thinking that she must have caught a big fish.

Just like her, many other ladies think that when a man is very caring and rooting for them, then he may likely be in love with them. That’s a blatant lie!

A man shouldn’t be predicted. If you are confused about what he feels for you, please ask!

📌Rule No 1
HOW TO KNOW IF HE LOVES YOU.✅

It doesn’t matter if he’s an extrovert who talks too much or an introvert who hardly talks, a man who loves you would never make you confused.

He makes it very clear to you that he loves you and may want something serious with you. He never makes you assume.

The problem is that he may not be doing it exactly how you would have wanted him to. If you are confused at this point, ask him.

📌Rule No 2
IF YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH A MAN, OR CRUSHING ON HIM, WHAT DO YOU DO?✅

Simply let him know. Find a means to tell him how you feel about him, but be wise enough to let him take charge of the relationship after you must have disclosed that information to him.