Expectation is not a bad thing because it’s normal for everyone to have strong beliefs about how a partner or a relationship itself should behave or function, but sometimes people expect so much that they don’t appreciate the effort of their partner in the relationship.
The fact that your partner’s output is not up to your standard or what you term as best, does not mean they are not trying their best to make the relationship work. Sometimes what they need is a partner who is more understanding, patient and encouraging, not a partner who is so critical of them and compares them to other people.
Relationships take time to grow, and growth is not instant or automatic, so don’t expect so much from your partner that you forget to appreciate the little things they do for you. Acknowledge their effort and appreciate them.
Don’t let what you want make you forget what you have received, and don’t let what you want to enjoy or experience make you forget what you have enjoyed or experienced. Don’t let what you want from your partner make you forget what they did for you. Don’t take your partner for granted because you expect so much.
People who have the habit of appreciating the little always get the opportunity to enjoy more. Your partner can do more for you if you can genuinely compliment them for what they do for you. Expecting too much can lead to disappointment.
In conclusion, “Not getting what you want can break your heart, but a wish that comes true is a life-giving tree” – Proverbs 13:12 (CEV).