Women will never tell you this, but I’ll tell you freely.

Women don’t like agreeable men.

Men who don’t seem to have an opinion and always agree with everything their woman says.

In your mind, you think you’re doing her a favour by always agreeing with her thoughts and decisions.

Perhaps you think it’s best to always agree with her to avoid arguments and conflict, but in her mind, she sees you as a weak man who can’t seem to take a stand.

It turns women off, and over time, she will tune you out.

As it is in physics and natural law, so it is in relationship dynamics; Like poles repel, unlike poles attract.

A submissive woman will be attracted to an assertive man, not a “submissive” man.

A confident man will be attracted to an agreeable woman, not a domineering woman.

Women are naturally dramatic. They have a penchant for unnecessary drama and conflict, but you can reduce it greatly when you learn to be assertive and sometimes disagreeable.

Let me give an analogy.

Your woman picks a pair of blouses. Blouse A and Blouse B.

She asks your opinion about Blouse A. You say it’s cool.

She asks your opinion on Blouse B. You say it’s cool too.

Already frustrated, she tells you to pick one for her to wear.

This is the opportunity for you to confidently choose one and say it’s your most preferred one, but most men will still simply say that they don’t mind anyone she wears, that whatever she wears, she looks great.

My man, she wanted you to choose one! You should have picked.

She would get upset and probably nag you about it, but in your mind, you would think you did nothing. You’d be wondering what the fuss was all about, after all you’re agreeing with her that both blouses look good on her. You will wonder what she’s so mad about.

Chances are, you will have many of such little rifts here and there over issues like this, and it will strain your relationship, because you don’t know how to take a stand and stick to it.

Being agreeable to your woman all of the time is not a good thing. It is not masculine.

Not having an opinion does not mean that you’re easy to get along with; it just means that you don’t care. That’s the way women interpret constant agreeableness from men.

When your woman asks for your input or idea on anything, don’t just go with what she says. Don’t just follow her suggestions or previous opinions. Form yours and have conviction about it, then you tell her.

Let me tell you how the mind of a woman works.

Women are excellent multitaskers. They can multi-task, and effortlessly too.

It’s only a woman you will find cooking, washing, playing with her child, and happily singing while performing these chores simultaneously. They can do this because of their high emotional energy.

Men simply cannot. We have to focus on one task at a time, to really do it well.

Despite a woman’s multitasking nature, she sometimes fails or forgets to compartmentalize some activities.

She forgets she hasn’t done a particular thing or made a decision on a particular thing.

While men try to remember that particular activity and tackle it immediately, women simply allow it to accumulate.

It accumulates so much that when they finally remember the many activities they are yet to do or the actions they are yet to take decisions on, they feel completely overwhelmed. They then have no choice but to “outsource” such decisions to their man, no matter how little it may be, subconsciously admitting and recognizing your headship as a man and a natural problem-solver.

When you then give her replies like “it’s okay” or “I don’t know” or “any decision you take is fine by me babe”, it means you simply haven’t helped her reduce her mental load, and overtime, she will build resentment towards you.

This is the way women think, but of course, the majority won’t tell you this, because they just expect you as a man to be naturally assertive and wield authority and control.

So, it doesn’t matter if she doesn’t communicate well with you the things she wants you to take decisions on; the moment she comes to you for “help” on decision matters, BE BOLD AND TAKE THE DECISIONS, AND STICK TO IT.

That way, you’re showing her that you’re paying attention, and that you are not a pushover.

You might think this is dramatic, but this is nothing compared to the mind-boggling drama you will face when you’re always agreeable with your woman. She will still be having conflicts with you and you’ll be wondering why.

What I have just told you can only be learnt by several years of experience being with women, so I don’t expect young men who are in their late teenage and early youth years to relate, but if you’re on this platform, following me and reading my content, then you must be ready to learn.

I’m very sure older, experienced men and married men can relate.