SIGNS YOU ARE DATING AN ABUSIVE PERSON

Now, when we talk of abuse, a lot of us are quick to think that only men are abusive. It will interest you to know that there are so many Abusive women too, but most men conceal the abuse so they don’t look weak to their Male counterparts.
Being abusive isn’t gender based. Rather, it’s character based.
The points below elicit some signs that indicate you are dating an abusive person.

1. The person is controlling: they want to know your every move, who you call, who you are with, what you are spending your money on, where you go, what time you leave and what time you must be back, what business you do, how many friends you have and the list is endless. They want to be in charge of every decision you make and everything you do.
2. They are extremely jealous : a little bit of jealousy is okay in any relationship, but when it becomes extreme, then it can lead to some dangerous actions by that person. If that person gets mad every time someone calls you, pays you complements, or shows aggression when someone admires you, you are dealing with a toxic person. If they aggressively accuse you of dating everyone you talk to, they are extremely jealous.
3. Possesive: they don’t want you talking to anyone except them. They don’t want you to go out if it’s not with them. They don’t want you to have any friend at all. They don’t want you associating with your family except their own family. They are extremely uncomfortable when you spend time with anyone who isn’t them. They tell you if you leave them, they will k|ll themselves (when anyone tells you this, they actually mean the reverse, so run)
4. Extreme mood swings : One minute, they are happy. The next minute, they go into a rage over something minor. They are rarely happy and very fast to switch from excited to uninterested. They give you silent treatment once they swing moods.
   There are so many signs, but I had to list these few so that this post isn’t a long read.
   If you notice any of these behaviors, leave that relationship. If you proceed to marry an abusive person thinking you will change them, you are setting up yourself for premium pain.

An abusive person will always work hard to break a strong man or woman.
So many people are still struggling to heal from abusive relationships, don’t open your eyes, and walk into one.