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Over the past week, issues about cheating has been on discus. People are discussing and arguing about the best way to treat their cheating partners. Some said, to divorce, others said, to cheat back and some are of the opinion that forgiveness is the best option.

There’s a saying that, “Prevention is better and cheaper than cure”. So, it’s better to avoid and prevent cheating on your partner than to start looking for a way to handle cheating.

Many people have cheated on their partners unintentionally. They don’t want to cheat but they fell into it unintentionally because they were careless and failed to be on the lookout.

Here are 10 ways to avoid cheating on your partner…

1. Decide That You Will Not Cheat

Until you decide to do or not do something, you haven’t started. Decision is the starting point of all achievements. Without decision nothing can be done. So, you must make this decision.

Even before you marry, you will have to make this decision that you are not going to cheat on your partner no matter what. Daniel in the land of Babylon purposed in his heart, he decided that he won’t defile himself with the king’s food. So, you too must decide not to cheat on your partner(Daniel 1:8).

2. Shut Your Eyes

After you got married or entered a relationship, you will keep seeing people more beautiful, handsome, richer, endowed and romantic than your partner and if your eyes are still open, the chances are high that you will cheat.

As a guy, shut your eyes against any other lady than your woman. As a lady, shut your eyes off every other man. King David saw a man’s wife bathing and he lost all his senses. He slept with the woman and even kill the woman’s husband! Close your eyes and look away(see 2 Sam 11:1-12; Job 31:1)

3. Avoid Sharing Your Problems With The Opposite Sex For Pity And Sympathy.

When I was in the village, there was this woman that was an expert in sharing her problems with the aim of securing pity and sympathy from people and as well as cash. Whenever you see her, expect one complain or another.

So, avoid sharing your problems with others especially the opposite sex for pity or sympathy. If it’s not solution you’re looking for, avoid the sharing stuff. Problems have a way of bonding people. You will become emotionally entangled.

4. Avoid Too Much Play With The Opposite Sex

Cheating doesn’t just happen, it starts little by little. Little play here and little play with the opposite sex and before you know it, emotions are developing to the point it becomes uncontrollable.

Playing with the opposite sex while you’re married or have a partner that you are in a relationship with is like when a lion and a goat is playing. You know what that means. Oga, that girl that whenever you see her, chemical reaction begins to take place in your body, the early you avoid her the better, the same is applicable to you, madam. You can’t walk on fire and won’t get burnt!

5. Limit Communication With The Opposite Sex

Communication is the blood of relationship, without communication relationship suffers. Communication fosters intimacy and understanding in a relationship. It keeps the fire burning.

So, limit communication with the opposite sex. When you don’t have something really important to discus, avoid all those unnecessary discussions. It will lead to something else.

6. Be Committed And Devoted To Your Partner

When you’re committed and devoted to something, you will have little or no time for something else, it will take your time, energy and resources. So, be committed and devoted to your partner.

When you’re committed and devoted to your partner, you will have little or no time for someone else, you’ll have time for your partner. Be Committed and devoted.

7. Think About The Consequences

As a married woman, what do you think will happen if your husband should catch you while you’re sleeping with another man? Ask yourself the same question as a man, what will happen if your woman should catch you cheating on her? Think about it.

Also, think about the effect your cheating will have on your partner. Think about how heartbroken, devastated and traumatized your partner will be. Think about the lost of trust and confidence your partner will have for you.

Cheating can end your marriage. It can make your partner to commit suicide. You will lose the trust, love and confidence of your partner. Does cheating really worth all these? Think about it.

8. Avoid The Company Of Those That Don’t Value Fidelity.

Proverbs 13:20 says that, when you follow the wise, you’ll become wise and when you will follow fools, you shall be destroyed. Who you follow determines what follows you. Who you company with determines what accompanies you.

So, avoid the company of those that are not faithful to their partners, avoid those that don’t respect their marital vows and and the sacredness of marriage. It’s just a matter of time before you join them. Bad company corrupts good character.

9. Value What You Have

When you don’t value what you have, you will treat and abuse it. When you don’t have value and respect for your partner, you will cheat on the person. What you value, you cherish, guide, protect and care for.

If you value your partner, you will cherish him or her, you will care about his or her feelings. Place a premium value on your partner.

10. Love Your Partner

Love is a strong force that can either compel you to do or not to do something. When you truly love your partner, you won’t like to cheat on him or her. The love will constrain you from doing such(see 2 Corinthians 5:14-15).