LOVE ❤
1. SEX IS GOD’S GIFT FOR MARRIAGE…
Sex is God’s idea given not just for procreation but for intimacy, pleasure and the strengthening of the bond between husband and wife. Sex has been given such a bad and evil name that even some Godly people still consider it evil or a taboo.
2. NO BODY IS THE SAME…
God deliberately created every person’s body unique. Sex is not a copy paste thing where you expect every body to be the same. Every one has their own unique erogenous spots. For example, some women get turned on by kisses on the neck and ears, others don’t. Some men have sexually sensitive nipples others don’t. Other men have sexually sensitive balls that love to be touched, others don’t.
3. DIFFERENT PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENTLY ABLED
God gave different bodies different abilities. Some ladies have big a clitoris, others have flexible bodies. Some men have a big penis, others small ones, others medium ones. Some men have a bending penis, others straight. Each person is unique. With this uniqueness comes different ways of experiencing pleasure.
4. THE MYSTERY OF THE CLITORIS
The clitoris is a God given organ for nothing else but sexual pleasure. Some men give their wives sexual pleasure through rubbing her clitoris using their erect penis or their fingers. Some use their tongue. A hardened penis comes with lubrication of the pre cum, but if he uses his fingers, he must lubricate it with his saliva or her own wetness lest she will feel pain on her clitoris. This is why some men use their tongue which comes already lubricated with saliva. If as a man you don’t use your tongue, don’t demonise those who do. The goal is to give your own wife pleasure. Each marriage is unique.
5. SEX IS CUSTOM MADE…
As earlier stated, each marriage is unique. Focus on your marriage and custom make it to both your preferences, pleasure, comfort and ability.
6. LOVE MAKING IS ABOUT KNOWING…
“And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord.” Genesis 4:1
Know your spouse’s body, don’t approach your spouse with preconceived notions. Study your spouse’s body’s response to your touch and sexual acts.
7. KNOW THAT LOVE MAKING IS ALL ABOUT THE SENSE OF TOUCH…
Kissing, rubbing, licking, sucking; all this is about the sense of touch on skin. The act of penetration in itself is all about the penis rubbing on the sensitive walls inside the vagina. The fingers, tongue and penis all give different types of sensations that are God given. Study what pressure to use and how fast or slow to give those sensory pleasures on different parts of your spouse’s body. Even kissing is all about the sensations of the skin of your lips meeting. Find out how your spouse loves the sensations.
8. YOUR BODY BELONGS TO YOUR SPOUSE…
“The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:4
This is why it is your responsibility to give your spouse pleasure as he/she likes it in the confines of love. Don’t sexually frustrate your spouse yet you have his/her body.
9. IN MARRIAGE IT IS NOT ABOUT LUST BUT LOVE
“Do everything in love.” 1 Corinthians 16: 14. Whatever you do should be all about love. Lust is selfish, love is about seeking to please your spouse. Don’t make your marriage all about sex.
10. SEX IN MARRIAGE IS ABOUT AGREEING…
Whatever sexual act you do together, let it be in mutual agreement. Don’t force your spouse to do something he/she is uncomfortable with or his/her conscience doesn’t agree with.
11. CHECK YOUR VIEW ON SEX…
Always check if you have a healthy sex view. Do you have an honourable view of sex or were you preached to that sex is evil before you got married that even in marriage you still think sex is evil and are rigid? Is your negative view on sex brought by some mistakes you made before marriage such as abortion or fornication? It is not a sin to enjoy sexual pleasure to the highest and as often as possible in marriage.
12. FORGET ABOUT THE NAMES…
The names given to sex styles has made some Godly people see them as evil, names such as doggy style, 69, spooning, wheelbarrow … Stop focusing on the names, just do things that give you both pleasure. You can even give the positions your own unique names. You are allowed to be naughty and creative with each other.
13. CREATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE…
Since you have different abilities, you can create your own sex positions that no one has ever even tried. You can have sex in other places, not just on your bed. You have been commanded to enjoy the wife of your youth. Each sexual experience doesn’t have to be the same. Being Godly doesn’t mean monotony, even God is creative.
14. WORK WITH YOUR SPOUSE’S EXPERIENCE…
If your spouse was sexually active before you, he/she has already become aware of the sexual pleasure he/she enjoys. Perhaps your wife realized in the past that she likes being the one riding on top, or your husband in the past realized that he likes his balls played with. Don’t be an insecure spouse, use that information to your advantage. Ask your spouse “How do you like it?” and do it for her/him.
15. THE KEY IS FAITHFULNESS…
You are permitted to enjoy each other as you wish, as long as faithfulness is observed. Your bedroom can keep your kinky and naughty secrets.
16. FOREPLAY IS NECESSARY…
Foreplay is the adequate preparation of your spouse for maximum satisfaction during penetration. Find ways you both enjoy to make her sufficiently wet and for him sufficiently hard.
17. SEEK HELP…
Some wives don’t get sufficiently wet, no problem. Use lubrication so that she doesn’t hurt. Learn about tricks to help the husband keep an erection longer, how to understand each other better sexually, how to maintain a good scent in your vagina, how to tighten your muscles. Don’t sexually suffer just because sex is a taboo to you. Sex is not a taboo to God when it comes to marriage.
18. SEX HAS A SHELF LIFE…
The gift of sex has an expiry date. You don’t have forever to enjoy the sensations of touch and sex. Don’t let it be that you are married but you don’t enjoy sex, one day your sexual organs will stop functioning. Make memories when you still can.
19. DON’T IMPOSE ON OTHERS…
Some people say they can never use their mouth on their spouse’s sexual organs because their mouth is only for eating and singing to God. Others believe that giving their spouse sexual pleasure using any creative way they choose is permitted in the name of faithfulness and that it is all part of giving God glory and celebrating their love. Whichever part of the two categories you belong to, what you do on your marital bed is private and between you two as a couple, don’t impose your preference or judge other couples for what they do in their private marital bed.
Romans 14: 1-14 says,
“Accept the one whose faith is weak, without QUARRELING over DISPUTABLE matters. One person’s faith ALLOWS them to eat anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must NOT JUDGE the one who does, for God has ACCEPTED THEM. Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.
One person considers one day more sacred than another; another considers every day alike. Each of them should be fully convinced in their OWN MIND. Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone. If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.
You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister ? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. It is written:
“ ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will acknowledge God.’ ”
So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.
12 WRONG THINGS GIRLS CHECK BEFORE MARRYING A GUY!!!
Many Ladies are known to base their marital decisions on things that will not endure a life-time. These have led many of them into wrong marriages and life time bondage. We need to identify and deal with them:
1) HEIGHT: Every girl’s dream is to marry a tall, dark guy with a baritone voice, I wonder where they got the idea that tall guys are better in marriage. Hey Girls, tall guy can give you tall problems; it is not the height that matters but the depth of the guy in God and in character.
2) MUSCLE: Muscular and heavy looking guys are also lucky, they are seen to be good suitors, and girls do say they look manly. they look like real men. Sorry Girls, muscles do not make a real man, character and ability to shoulder responsibility do. A guy with muscle without character will use his muscles to deal with you and batter your beautiful face.
3) A WELL SET HOUSE: A guy with a well set house is the dream of any girl any day. Many girls will throw caution into the wind to grab a man who have a house with King size; beautiful Italian Settee, micro wave oven, well stock freezer, home theater, refrigerator, gas cooker, Plasma TV,6 by 6 bed, well stuff Kitchen, Dining table, washing machine, dish washers, split unit air conditioner etc is a dream catch for girls any day. Sorry girl, a well set house is good but it may be a well set trouble if the guy is not a man of character, manners or discretion, he will make the house look like a prison yard for you.
4) FAT BANK ACCOUNT: Girls are fond of trying to know how rich a guy is by checking the guy’s phones for bank alerts. They joyfully decide to marry a guy when they discover the guy is very rich with fat Bank balance. What a mistake? They don’t want to know where the money is coming from; they dont even want to know what the guy does for a living. What concerns them is the money that is available to be spent. Many girls ended up finding themselves entangled for life in this kind of situation, don’t base your marriage on GREED, it won’t turn to GREEN.
5) PLACE OF WORK: Some of our girls are in the habit of making marital decision base on the place a guy works. You dare not talk of marriage to them if you are a Teacher or civil servant. You dare not propose them if you are working with a small firm, or one man business. What an error? Girls note that, that a guy works in ACCESS BANK does not mean he will give you ACCESS to his heart or peace of mind. A guy that works in SHELL may put your life in a SHELL forever, you may not be the FIRST in the life of a guy that works in FIRST BANK, a guy that work in GUARANTEE TRUST BANK may not GUARANTEE your future. He may be working in NESTLE but not SETTLE you at home, So it is not about where he is working but about who is working in Him, God or devil.
6) ROMANCE: A young lady said, The guy is romantic, hot and sexy, i will marry him. Stop girl!!!!, Romance is not enough for marriage. The truth is, most so called romantic guys don’t remain like that after wedding. Marry a guy base on qualities that will endure, romance dont last forever, go and ask married women.
7) TYPE OF CAR: A whole lots of girls will be enticed by a guy driving a big and expensive car. Some will not even go out with a guy that does not have a car. If you want to mess yourself as a guy, ride on a bike to go and propose to a lady, you will hear the story of your life. Ladies, a guy that has a CAR may not CARE for you, life is not about CAR, it is about marrying somebody that will CARE for your future.
8. US or UK passports
Most girls will readily marry anybody with US or UK passports, Lots of girls have destroyed their lives in the process of looking for somebody with a foreign passport to marry.
9) HIS PERFORMANCE IN THE CHOIR: It is funny that some ladies are ready to get marry to some guys because they are very good in the choir, they can play Sax, keyboard, drums, trumpet and sing tenor and Bass very well, I wonder whether they want to start a choir band in their houses.
10) RICH PARENT: Children of Rich parents are easy target for many young girls not because they are in love with them, but they know they will have access to money and connection. Many of these guys who come from rich background are pompous, cocky, proud and will be terrible and irresponsible husbands and fathers tomorrow but girls will not care about that, Most of these girls do live to regret their wrong decision.
Don’t marry anybody just because the parents are rich, marry the person for who he is and the love you share together.
11) FELLOWSHIP LEADERSHIP: Many Christian ladies are ready to die to marry brothers that are in the executives of their Campus fellowship. They fight tooth and nail to get the attention of these brothers, some even go to the extent of offering their bodies. Many of these ladies do think that the best of all men are in the executives of the Campus fellowship, they have forgotten that A PRESIDENT OF THE FELLOWSHIP MAY NOT BE A RESIDENT OF HEAVEN.
12) BEDROOM EXPERTISE: One of the most stupid way to make a decision of whom to marry as a lady is to base it on how good, sexy or terrific a Guy is, in the bedroom. If you base your marital decision on a man’s sexual prowess; you may end up with a play boy instead of a Husband. You may end up getting marry to a sex hunter, instead of a real lover. You will end up getting married to a universal sperm donor who will sleep with your sister, house maid, friends, girls in the neighborhood, his secretary and anything in skirt that cross his paths. DON’T GO FOR SEX GO FOR SENSE.
Remember: To all Ladies, I hope the above mentioned qualifications are not the main foundation that you got married. Building a happy relationship comes from the innermost part of our heart and our decision to become happy..Gid bless us all19 TRUTHS ABOUT SEX AS GOD’S GIFT OF A MARRIAGE
1. SEX IS GOD’S GIFT FOR MARRIAGE…
Sex is God’s idea given not just for procreation but for intimacy, pleasure and the strengthening of the bond between husband and wife. Sex has been given such a bad and evil name that even some Godly people still consider it evil or a taboo.
2. NO BODY IS THE SAME…
God deliberately created every person’s body unique. Sex is not a copy paste thing where you expect every body to be the same. Every one has their own unique erogenous spots. For example, some women get turned on by kisses on the neck and ears, others don’t. Some men have sexually sensitive nipples others don’t. Other men have sexually sensitive balls that love to be touched, others don’t.
3. DIFFERENT PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENTLY ABLED
God gave different bodies different abilities. Some ladies have big a clitoris, others have flexible bodies. Some men have a big penis, others small ones, others medium ones. Some men have a bending penis, others straight. Each person is unique. With this uniqueness comes different ways of experiencing pleasure.
4. THE MYSTERY OF THE CLITORIS
The clitoris is a God given organ for nothing else but sexual pleasure. Some men give their wives sexual pleasure through rubbing her clitoris using their erect penis or their fingers. Some use their tongue. A hardened penis comes with lubrication of the pre cum, but if he uses his fingers, he must lubricate it with his saliva or her own wetness lest she will feel pain on her clitoris. This is why some men use their tongue which comes already lubricated with saliva. If as a man you don’t use your tongue, don’t demonise those who do. The goal is to give your own wife pleasure. Each marriage is unique.
5. SEX IS CUSTOM MADE…
As earlier stated, each marriage is unique. Focus on your marriage and custom make it to both your preferences, pleasure, comfort and ability.
6. LOVE MAKING IS ABOUT KNOWING…
“And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord.” Genesis 4:1
Know your spouse’s body, don’t approach your spouse with preconceived notions. Study your spouse’s body’s response to your touch and sexual acts.
7. KNOW THAT LOVE MAKING IS ALL ABOUT THE SENSE OF TOUCH…
Kissing, rubbing, licking, sucking; all this is about the sense of touch on skin. The act of penetration in itself is all about the penis rubbing on the sensitive walls inside the vagina. The fingers, tongue and penis all give different types of sensations that are God given. Study what pressure to use and how fast or slow to give those sensory pleasures on different parts of your spouse’s body. Even kissing is all about the sensations of the skin of your lips meeting. Find out how your spouse loves the sensations.
8. YOUR BODY BELONGS TO YOUR SPOUSE…
“The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:4
This is why it is your responsibility to give your spouse pleasure as he/she likes it in the confines of love. Don’t sexually frustrate your spouse yet you have his/her body.
9. IN MARRIAGE IT IS NOT ABOUT LUST BUT LOVE
“Do everything in love.” 1 Corinthians 16: 14. Whatever you do should be all about love. Lust is selfish, love is about seeking to please your spouse. Don’t make your marriage all about sex.
10. SEX IN MARRIAGE IS ABOUT AGREEING…
Whatever sexual act you do together, let it be in mutual agreement. Don’t force your spouse to do something he/she is uncomfortable with or his/her conscience doesn’t agree with.
11. CHECK YOUR VIEW ON SEX…
Always check if you have a healthy sex view. Do you have an honourable view of sex or were you preached to that sex is evil before you got married that even in marriage you still think sex is evil and are rigid? Is your negative view on sex brought by some mistakes you made before marriage such as abortion or fornication? It is not a sin to enjoy sexual pleasure to the highest and as often as possible in marriage.
12. FORGET ABOUT THE NAMES…
The names given to sex styles has made some Godly people see them as evil, names such as doggy style, 69, spooning, wheelbarrow … Stop focusing on the names, just do things that give you both pleasure. You can even give the positions your own unique names. You are allowed to be naughty and creative with each other.
13. CREATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE…
Since you have different abilities, you can create your own sex positions that no one has ever even tried. You can have sex in other places, not just on your bed. You have been commanded to enjoy the wife of your youth. Each sexual experience doesn’t have to be the same. Being Godly doesn’t mean monotony, even God is creative.
14. WORK WITH YOUR SPOUSE’S EXPERIENCE…
If your spouse was sexually active before you, he/she has already become aware of the sexual pleasure he/she enjoys. Perhaps your wife realized in the past that she likes being the one riding on top, or your husband in the past realized that he likes his balls played with. Don’t be an insecure spouse, use that information to your advantage. Ask your spouse “How do you like it?” and do it for her/him.
15. THE KEY IS FAITHFULNESS…
You are permitted to enjoy each other as you wish, as long as faithfulness is observed. Your bedroom can keep your kinky and naughty secrets.
16. FOREPLAY IS NECESSARY…
Foreplay is the adequate preparation of your spouse for maximum satisfaction during penetration. Find ways you both enjoy to make her sufficiently wet and for him sufficiently hard.
17. SEEK HELP…
Some wives don’t get sufficiently wet, no problem. Use lubrication so that she doesn’t hurt. Learn about tricks to help the husband keep an erection longer, how to understand each other better sexually, how to maintain a good scent in your vagina, how to tighten your muscles. Don’t sexually suffer just because sex is a taboo to you. Sex is not a taboo to God when it comes to marriage.
18. SEX HAS A SHELF LIFE…
The gift of sex has an expiry date. You don’t have forever to enjoy the sensations of touch and sex. Don’t let it be that you are married but you don’t enjoy sex, one day your sexual organs will stop functioning. Make memories when you still can.
19. DON’T IMPOSE ON OTHERS…
Some people say they can never use their mouth on their spouse’s sexual organs because their mouth is only for eating and singing to God. Others believe that giving their spouse sexual pleasure using any creative way they choose is permitted in the name of faithfulness and that it is all part of giving God glory and celebrating their love. Whichever part of the two categories you belong to, what you do on your marital bed is private and between you two as a couple, don’t impose your preference or judge other couples for what they do in their private marital bed.
Romans 14: 1-14 says,
“Accept the one whose faith is weak, without QUARRELING over DISPUTABLE matters. One person’s faith ALLOWS them to eat anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must NOT JUDGE the one who does, for God has ACCEPTED THEM. Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.
One person considers one day more sacred than another; another considers every day alike. Each of them should be fully convinced in their OWN MIND. Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone. If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.
You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister ? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. It is written:
“ ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will acknowledge God.’ ”
So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.
Remember: Let us stop PASSING JUDGEMENT on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister. I am convinced, being fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus. God bless us all.5 MAIN REASONS OF A CHEATING WOMAN IS MORE DANGEROUS THAN POISON
1. A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can’t have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.
2. Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuses her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.
3. Men don’t equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn’t love her. That’s why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men. But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrate some hidden secrets concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband).
4. For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things. For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.
5. The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you. But I can’t say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again.